3 simple strategies to build Inner Resilience

If you’re someone who is constantly and easily affected by the words and actions of others, stop wasting your time and energy trying to change them. It’s an endless quest.

Instead, work on building Inner Resilience. The reason why we are often affected by the things that other people say and easily feel derailed or upset by their words or judgements is because internally we have already eroded our own internal emotional state by berating ourselves, focusing on our flaws, listening to our inner critic and comparing ourselves to others.

Here are 3 simple strategies to build Inner Resilience

1. Positive empowering journaling. Grab a journal, a pen and write a heading “The things I like, love and appreciate about myself” and then start writing.

   Whatever comes up, no matter how small, focus on it, feel it and then let it grow within you. Write more and keep going until there’s nothing more to write.

   Now read that to yourself every morning before you start your day, and really FEEL that love and appreciation for who you are.

   When you do this, you’re building a powerful internal state that’s love based and resilient - if you feel this way, it will be much harder for someone else’s words to derail you.

2. Pay attention to your self talk.

   As you move through your day, pay attention to the way you speak to yourself. Notice the narratives, stories and words you use when you talk to yourself.

   Then ask yourself “How would I speak to a friend or a loved one if they were experiencing this?” and give yourself that same kindness, courtesy and compassion.

   Changing the way you speak to yourself changes the way you feel about yourself.

   When you feel better about yourself, then others words and actions will affect you less because you won’t already be raw from your own criticism.

3. Reflect on your wins.

   At the end of every day, take a few minutes to reflect on what you think you did well during the day.

   Think about situations you handled better than expected, where you were kinder to yourself and others, where you grew and stood in your power.

   Use these reflections and say to yourself “I’m really proud of myself for….”

   Expand on this, and REALLY FEEL IT! Feeling is the key, words without feeling have no meaning :)

Building Inner Resilience is an ongoing process, and just as we can build it up, we can erode it too with our habits, thoughts and inner narratives. So be kind to yourself, and treat yourself the way you wish others would treat you!

All you need to do is focus on building more than you’re breaking it down, and things will progressively get better and better

You’re amazing

You’re doing great

You’ve got this!

P.S - Want to go deeper on your healing and clear the baggage from your past that’s causing you to be triggered by judgment and criticism? Book a 1:1 session to clear deep layer of trapped emotions and limiting beliefs - Find out more

Lots of love

Kyle